Dating codependent people

16 Jan

In its most narrow definition, it requires one person to be physically or psychologically addicted, such as to heroin, and the second person to be psychologically dependent on that behavior.

According to disability studies specialist Lennard J.

One of the distinctions is that healthy empathy and caregiving is motivated by conscious choice; whereas for codependents, their actions are compulsive, and they usually aren't able to weigh in the consequences of them or their own needs that they're sacrificing.

Some scholars and treatment providers feel that codependency is an overresponsibility and that overresponsibility needs to be understood as a positive impulse gone awry.

Generally, a parent who takes care of their own needs (emotional and physical) in a healthy way will be a better caretaker, whereas a codependent parent may be less effective, or may even do harm to a child.

Another way to look at it is that the needs of an infant are necessary but temporary, whereas the needs of the codependent are constant.

Approval from others is more important than respecting themselves. In the book and an article published in the Journal of Psychoactive Drugs (Volume 18, Issue 1, 1986), Cermak argued (unsuccessfully) for the inclusion of codependency as a separate personality disorder in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-III-R; American Psychiatric Association, 1987).

These helper types are often dependent on the other person's poor functioning to satisfy their own emotional needs.

Many codependents place a lower priority on their own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others.

Often, there is imbalance, so one person is abusive or in control or supports or enables another person's addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement.

Some codependents often find themselves in relationships where their primary role is that of rescuer, supporter, and confidante.