God dating relationships slowly

13 Aug

If you've gone through the early stage of the relationship and truly feel before God (to whom you will give account for your decision) that you should begin to get more intimately involved with this woman because you think marriage to her is a good possibility, you have to tell her. If done well, it should actually put you both at ease moving forward.

Feel free to have any of those discussions in the presence of people you both trust or who are counseling you about the relationship.

Also, do clearly discuss limits on your physical involvement (in other words, reiterate that there will not be one) and put methods of adhering to those limits in place.

That said, don't make physical involvement — even a lack thereof — a frequent topic of conversation.

Let's look at how this stage might play out by considering some of the same issues we looked at for the early stage.

Clarity and intentions should be established when things move from "testing the waters" to "yeah, the water's fine." Don't assume that because you agreed to start dating or courting (presumably with the intention to determine whether marriage was the right thing) you (or your partner) will "just know" when things begin to progress. Maybe, but being deliberate and clear about where the relationship is need not suck all the fun, spontaneity and feeling out of the whole affair.