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There’s still a part of me that wants to wait an eternity to watch their Snapchats and not look at their Stories unless they’ve seen mine. Here’s a list of things I’m learning to do to say #Boy Bye to the Chill Girl stereotype: — If you like someone, TELL HIM. — Don’t have the “what are we” conversation while drunk at 3am. Mostly, I question my feelings and if they’re right or wrong.— Don’t wait 22 minutes to answer a goddamn text message. You see people buying into this nonsense all the time – men chasing a non-existent dream girl and, worse still, women doing their best to contort themselves into the preposterous mould because they think it’s what men want. The Cool Girl model of womanhood – Olivia Wilde in Drinking Buddies, Anne Hathaway in Love and Other Drugs, Zooey Deschanel in 500 Days of Summer, Kate Hudson in How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days (before she starts pretending to be the kind of hopelessly needy girl that is, obviously, repugnant to men) – is something you’ll only find on the big screen.Because, as Amy realises, she is merely an illusion conjured up by Hollywood to unwittingly torture us all.

I’m not a Chill Girl or a Cool Girl with a slew of dirty jokes on deck, who chows down on Big Macs without worrying what it’s doing to my body, and doesn’t believe in the idea of labels because relationships don’t last, anyway.

I thought I’d lay that all out on the table now, so I can tell you how I tried (and failed) to be the Chill Girl.

“Being the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she’s hosting the world’s biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all hot.” A “Chill Girl” is just like the Cool Girl, but according to Medium writer Alana Massey, the “Chill Girl” lacks a specific passion.

When you spend so much time trying to something, you end up surprising yourself when you actually become that something — sort of like Cady in “Mean Girls,” who pretends to be Plastic and ends up becoming “cold hard shiny Plastic” instead. As I learned, it’s easy to take on this persona when you want to get someone to like you.

By playing all those games, I ruined the chance of actually finding happiness with a great guy. Thanks to rom coms and teen soap operas, a lot of women, like me, have grown up thinking that acting nonchalant and uninterested will have all the guys flocking to you instead of the girl who’s neurotic and outspoken — aka the girl who has no chill.